Here is a children's poem written (and illustrated) by the late Shel Silverstein. It pretty much sums it up for me.
"Hug O' War"
I will not play at tug o' war.
I'd rather play at hug o' war,
Where everyone hugs Instead of tugs,
Where everyone giggles
And rolls on the rug,
Where everyone kisses,
And everyone grins,
And everyone cuddles,
And everyone wins.
